Oh what a surprise!! BTW, he demanded that i go back to him in a letter.Tried to tell me that it was all my fault, I was really messing up by leaving! He destroyed me and my life he disliked my friends and family it was all about him. Me being weak. He loves pegging and porn on methvery rarely would even attempt to satisfy me. What it generally means is to let go , being in no contact is going to boost your ego and in the mean time you wouldve lost a considerable amount of life and career.. if you strongly feel that someone dont deserve your happiness or they demand you to sacrifice and what you feel is mutual let go .. let go .. you are going to get what you deserve be it a narcissist psychopath or whoever you will see them come to you the way you want .. but be open that you dont expect anything out of them.. let time take the call, surrender your sorrows to something you believe could be your god or your sentiment take the course of life you are going to get better and better and better .. in fact we are all narcissist psychpathic and bipolar people and we dont know it yet because love itself is a bipolar thing as it expects mutual consent and dependency .. we are talking about two brains at once in a single relationship Dont brand people , let them be people who they wish to be, rather blaming them make yourself beautiful and live the complete humanity. He is a pathological liar and got me back by being sweet and helpful many times. I dont mean to whine,Im just stating fact. Your best bet is to ignore them the way they ignored you earlier. PTSD Among Ukrainian Civilians in the Russia-Ukraine War, Wolves With a Parasite Become More Daring, Study Shows, Sensory Issues Often Have Overlooked Consequences, Teen Mothers: When Stigma Trumps Compassion (and Research). How Do Gifted Adolescents See Themselves? A grand total of 4, 3 of which are male and are consistent, if that makes sense because nothing is consistent but the abuse. I value myself now. And Im hoping to grasp some sort of understanding, and advice, Hi Take your son and keep strong.Do as much research on narcissistic personality disorder as you can.As you will be co parenting limit all contact with your sons father.Please dont let this narc destroy you.You will if you give your son up for adoption.May I suggest you google Melanie tonia evans? Seeing how he can treat me, I refuse to let him brainwash my daughter! If you have not done so already, I recommend finding a support group to help you through this. Ive been so hurt by what has happened to me. Oh yeahI love this. Please help I hope you read this, I am desperate. So your goin going to F**k lets be real ! I can tell you that now, one of my kids came around when she began an adult. Narcissistic admiration is the tendency to boost themselves. I am considering a restraining order and filing for divorce. Imagine my surprise when this fat, short woman shows up at my door! As time went on, he went through the entire pregnancy with me, rubbed my feet, took me to appointments, brought me what I craved, and did everything a babys father was supposed to do. Psychologist Jonathan Marshall, Ph.D., says you have to see this type of breakup as a long game: "It takes consistent ongoing effort because your own issues are used by the narcissist against you," he tells mbg. Hes no good ???? People need research this demonic spirit to better learn whose causing this spiritual warfare in reality. Theres a BIG difference between a narcissistic ex and a regular exthe difference starts at the very beginning of the relationship.. And trust me its like gastro, if you dont know if youve had it, you havent. And know you are not alone! This isnt my town ! A relationship with a narcissist can be incredibly damaging to your self-esteem. Youre finally free of the controlling behaviors, insulting comments, and constant gaslighting. I was in a relationship with a Narc for 6 months he even proposed we got engaged! this is not a SPAM post like the one below. I told him not to call or text me. After reading a lot of materials on NPDs Im just afraid she will never change. lets get some equality on the situation , I just recently had a very intense 3 mth relationship with someone I truly believe had NPD. Strangely enough I still feel some love and fondness for her, despite her behaviour. In a way, their loss (being with the narcissist) is your gain. They want you to pay for their early childhood trauma. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. OMG Michele he is pure evil. I hope I can do this and stick to it. They of course, believed their dad as he was very convincing to them and of course as you know kids are impressionable. I love him so much that he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. Thats exactly almost where Im at. If we're on the initiating end of the breakup, we're likely to get over it more quickly than if we're on the receiving end. He was talented photographer very handsome. Do t see him as tempting as it can be! One night, he was supposed to come to my house after I got off from work and he took so long, I texted him to cancel because I had plans for the next day. I flew back home alone realising he was a cheat and a Liar! He bought her a new car hoping she would sleep with him, when she did not he got mad. I noticed that as time passed, I truly felt grateful and, positive every day. But the arguing would still continue & then it would be me to just back down then they would come back they had me always questioning myself during the course of the arguments they would change there reasons as to why we were arguing half a dozen time was far from consistant & I couldnt follow what was really going on complete head game!!! So I say Im sorry yes. He was engaged when we met & I had no idea. I asked for his help and cried many nights. This broke my heart in pieces. He would never give me the love and respect that I deserved this time I knew I was strong enough to go I didnt even say anything to him I ignored the phone calls and I blocked him off of everything. Over time they start to devalue you and in doing so, eliminate your ability to make them feel better about themselves. So maybe. Its all about evil versus good they are evil , they want what you have and they cant have it they resent you for it and thankfully too stupid to realize that kids grow up and see things quite clearly. The tenants will quietly say so glad you are back . Saying. Mine is a good looking one and the sex is simply the best. Then when I wake up in the middle of the night I hear the door shut. Contact Us. It gave me , clarity. Only add 1 more N to that list as far as dating one, and add another 1 for that would be my own mother, who has been the easiest for me to go NC with. I am 41 and I draw myself from christ. I am now 38 I met him when I was 26 he was 48 he used me I allowed this now I feel like running him over he is 60 a crack head and I was as well. I honestly believe and reiterate the fact that love is incredibly the toughest thing the human kind is prone to deal with. By about August 2015 it had such a tight grip on me I was virtually paralysed from doing much of anything due to my fear of her, severe depression, complete loss of self confidence and little to no self esteem. Its as though you took the words right out of my mouth. Its exhausting. When he was with me and vowed to be my Fiance he was on the internet seeking other woman..I got a restraining order on him for only 2 years. Well needless to say I take his ass back he says Im throwing him away blah blah. Plus with the addition of our daughter, life was stressful & he wasnt the best at dealing with stress. . Maintain this even if the narcissist tries to reconnect with you months or years later. Karen .every detail of your story is almost exactly like mine.25 long lonely hurtful and degrading years I was married to a man who showed no concern for my well being .after he left me for the 3rd affair I chose not to take him back..my god the night mare of divorce .my eldest son was completely brainwashed as were friends and family.my eldest daughter and youngest son stayed by my side.the worst part of my story is after suffering such torment through those years you would think I would recognise the signs of an abusive man.I ended up jumping from the frying pan into the fire and had a 5 year on and off relationship with a man who in many ways was more emotional abusive than my ex husband.these type of men pray on woman freshly separated or divorced.I see now how vitally important it is to find the strength and take as much as is needed to receive professional help.so as to reflect and heal before contemplating any relationship .my involvement with these 2 men almost killed me by my own hand.my self esteem self worthmy identity were crushed I was stumbling through life numbing the confusion and shame that was inflicted on me day in and day out by these men with drugs and alcohol.I am now well on the way to recovery.for the first time in over 30 years I can look myself in a mirror and say I am proud of me and this is my life to live my son now speaks to me.it has been a long hard journey for not just me but my children as well..I am proud to say they are all loving and well adjusted adults now.I may be 50 this year but this is the begining of my life . In this study, we surveyed 246 adults between 18 and 30 years old who had within the last five years experienced the breakup of a romance lasting at least three months. YUCK!! I really want to tell her that this lifestyle that she is living is classified as a disorder, and is considered abnormal. Renay! Nothing. And I finally blocked him. Weve gone through this a few times and now that he lives here it makes it a million times harder to get him out. I told her I thought she was a narcissist after all of the behavior and reading it up online and talking to friends that are psych majors. He was not unfaithful, and I do believe its because he wont be with just anyone. or enough out of the house for that matter. He also supplies them with beer and open door policy so they all praise him .. they all fear him as well but by socializing with these people he seems to get enough supply . My ex-N wanted me to stay for reasons beyond my comprehension. he didnt trust me with family members of my own blood. Start the healing process. He would leave me alone. Its been a very hard realization to ACCEPT that my fairy tale is over but in hind sight, it was over a long time ago; I just refused to believe it. If genetic factors are involved nothing helps. "It's a siege." If I werent miles and miles from home I would have walked away from him that instant. He was creepy, before we found out what the baby was he would say things like, I really want a girl. thank you. They ALWAYS DO. I was so upset that she hasnt been there for me. With that said, cut all communication and only speak with him when its in regards to your son. She is legitimately seeing a therapist weekly for stress and anxiety attacks in order to keep receiving long term disability from the prior employer but lying to the judge about her income and no mention of mental illness. he came knocking on my door one night and I called 911. They denied their self the ability to feel, so now they have no feelings in their relationships. to love yourself enough to stop comprimising your sanity. I figure he was a player right on. He replied that I needed to move on, as he has and that talking wouldnt do either of us any good. Hi Tina I was with a narcissist for over 5 years it was an emotional rollercoaster to say the least. Ju texted me till 3 in the morning and as soon as I saw her message, I apologized and went to bed. If you've recently experienced a break-up with someone you suspect was a narcissist, you may be feeling a range of intense emotions, including anger, sadness, relief, and confusion. Im really upset as what we had was really special and it breaks my heart to know it will end. After the breakup of her one-sided, narcissistic relationship, Molly found the peace that had always seemed just out of reach. doesnt matter of the child seems fine if your concern do it! Yes I am in love with a monster. All during the relationship, he has accused me of cheating and lying when I have done no such thing. One theoretical perspective has been especially useful in helping researchers understand how narcissists behave in their relationships: The Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Concept. Jobless, drug addicted severely depressed, escort who has no desire to do ANYTHING nut stare st the wall for days. So very thankful that other men responded to this with regaurds to women who are narcissist ! If you were married to this person, they will bring the baggage to the courtroom. My roommate moved out as he said he felt uncomfortable around allan Well about a month gos by. Keep in mind that the entire time he has been gone before he came here to get everything, he never called; I didnt have any communicaton with him by phone or text. She was able to leave u without any remorse and went on to live with her boyfriend, but the moment you wanted to have a life of your own, shes trying to come back. The only reason I do believe it is because I have memories of being that guy. Stay strong Tina! They are now moving away and 2 weeks ago they got married. Long distance relationship, we went on holiday and on the 3rd day found out he was hiding a serious STD from me!! My boys do not show her a lot of respect due to the way she talks to them. It can be devastating to have given the best of yourself to a narcissist only to have them find a new partner within weeks of. Also, his words would seem sooo honest yet his actions always went against them. Thinks hes a country superstar. I for some reason believed him took him back. Used to go on & on about how good looking they thought they were & more importantly how others thought they were so good looking. ON HER OWN> I stayed away, ALTHOUGH it was hard. (By the way Ive been diagnosed with BPD and Im in treatmentso Im not particularly healthynmyself..not judging. I said ok well I dont need this. This mom has sent him to visits with dirty clothes on, not appropriate clothing for the weather, not started ANY solid foods as yet (8 months!) however I did it by never disclosing any of my position and being being happy assertive and holding my ground. about him. Im BLOCKED on his phone now! Off he went. The only good that came out of my going back was that I needed to find myself that low that I could pull myself up and cut him off for good with no remorse. The longer you stay away the easier it gets! I met him almost 2 years ago. They may have found a new source of supply but had a falling out with them and now they need something from you. as i was browsing through the internet, I came across a website that suggested that Dr.Mack can help get ex back fast and stop a divorce or breakup and so on , So I felt I should give him a try. she is truly an expert and healer when it comes to this stuff. 12 years later and many, many, many ups and downs, mostly downs (! They might stop responding to any texts or emails, or completely blank and ignore you if you are sometimes at the same social events. Ben consistent in EVERYTHING do not show your weakness to anyone they dont like u doing better I promise and thats your won gameplan just dont get carried away this is for your son. they arent. Being so lovely to me then pulling away. Especially if I have to pay child support. Basically I feel like he will always have a foothold in my life, because of my son, I feel he planned this entire situation strategically, and I feel so lost, alone, and empty that Im deeply afraid that he will use my son to destroy me forever. I would gather all of the info on narcissism, document his actions and get a lawyer to prove he is a danger. Me always being I love with him I agree So that night Im driving him home he tells me hes going on a trip. Hit Rock Bottom from leaving going back etc. We discussed it for a few days then the idea just was never brought up again. I cannot leave. claiming she has to breastfeed every 1 1/2 hrs in order that Dad gets max of the 1 1/2 hr to visit. Dont be so sure he means well. Accept that you fell in love with an illusion. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. In the beginning he was happy about our pregnancy. Only thing that makes me question who he is . In a way I feel very guilty about not putting my heart into trying it out with her after so many years of marriage. Wouldt answer texts. He doubted his whole existense due to the accusations by his ex. Its no different, but worse, 5, 10, 15 years in. It was almost like he was enjoying it. In both being this way any words of advice on how to move in in a positive manner and try to continue to have our lives together. I bought things for him, spent all my time with him, and allowed my life to revolve around him. He must do it his way and as soon as he moves to a house, he is not telling her where he lives. My apologies, wasnt meaning to write a book. Im starting to become like him, which scares me. She managed to turn all my family (who happen to not even have known her very well) against me, I lost them all, but had to get out at all cost if not for my great friends and support at the community church I would have lost the battle in this world for good Guess what, after 3 years she now contacted me again, I feel desperate to go fix things, but that will land me back in a world of pain and of course, she used my sister to get hold of me again, and apparently they are best friends. but,we have joint custody so he has visitation. If so, then hopefully I will not hear from my ex again. I asked him if he was seeing anyone; he replied that he was but that he was about to end it. Other research has also shown that they perceive their current partners positively, so it seems that these positive perceptions don't fade after the relationship is over. The. Gwendolyn Seidman, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology and chair of the psychology department at Albright College. (3) To be promoted in your office (4) Do you want a child. Completely right just you and me. I read these post and have experienced everything posted. Mine has a New Supply, he started cheating with her just before we broke up. Hurting people for attention and gratification. The Concern Hoover is one of the Hoover tactics used by narcissists and borderlines during a break up (and after). From these Predators! And his a week after I feel so hurt but I always feel hurt around him. Narcissistic relationships are kept in place by both fear and hope. We spent a lot of time talking at first (maybe I did too much talking as my past was used against me during the end stage); he was still married after I dont know how many years of separation during which time he strayed outside the marriage several times and had a child out of wedlock. My kids really liked my ex but my daughter had told me last year she didnt think he was the one cause I was always unhappy. I know is really hard to stay alone without your lover been around you, I was in the same situation for 6 months till I find a solution, we both fall in love with each other and we got married but after 1 year of our marriage everything was changing after he got a new job in a new city, we where still talking on phone when he move to where he now working after spending just 2 months there, everything changed he stop calling me and any time i call him a lady will pick his call i was wondering what is happening till he called me that he was getting a divorce i was surprise to hear that from him i thought it was a joke till it happened then I realize I cant stay without him so i began to look for a solution then i came across Dr. EKPEN of EKPEN TEMPLE on the internet who helped me to bring my lover back. good luckfrom what I read Ur an amazing mum get Ur son back xxx, HI THERE I WAS PRECISELY THROUGH THE SAME BUT HE FOUND A 48YR OLD SHE DOESNT WANT TO LEAVE ME ALONE SENDING ME MESSAGES ALL THE TIME THREATENING ME AND TELLING ME HOW BAD I AM SO BAD THAT I CANT TRUST PEOPLE DONT HAVE THE COURAGE FOR A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF HIS LIES AND DECEITFULL WAYS I AM TORN APART AND HOW DO ONE HEAL YOUR SOUL EVEN I FEEL GOD LEFT ME. Do you have any advice or tips on dealing with a narcissist when NO CONTACT isnt an option? ..all over again. He didnt want to answer any of my questions while here and could not look me in my eyes. Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Tel +1 (971)-512-6745) of this spell caster Robinson, he stays in USA, so contacted him because i was so heartbroken and dont know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me. Dealing with one of them now Painful awful experience. If you look at the thread it seems the females are angry ! It has been hell and drove me to self harm and suicide attempts one if which I came home from hospital and busted him with teen pirn . My discovery about her affair was like her ticket or rather her way of telling me she no longer was in love with me after 14 years of marriage. I did everything for him whenever he needed help with something, I love him so much and cared about him a lot. I put, together a vision board with pictures of us when we were happy and also, cards and letters he had written. So I just deal with the light. In all cases though, the narcissist needs supply and they need to repair their ego (even if its at your expense). The night he come back I took him out with my friends. he threatens to not take our son now 9 months at weekends for me to work. Time heals all wounds and helps you to forget the pain the narcissist caused. He blocked ME months ago and I never blew up his phone. Thought fate had stepped in! I used to be a lively person but I feel that part of me was gradually vanishing. whilst there i was cook ncleaner and mother to his other two kids. but while woman stress thier ideas online or too friends men arnt so privvy too it. He said some hurtful things and when I said he was been cruel, he replied as I am a very honest person, it is just the truth. So finally given my religious views, (yes I know sex before marriage is a HUGE sin) I decided that I would keep the baby and not terminate. Hear nothing for a month. I than realized that his daily and nightly calls constant was his way of controlling me and see what I was up too. I have to say I managed to pick myself up and accomplish everything I set out to do. Dont know what to do now? Get up and make a change, right now, just do it and dont stop trying. No remorse. I am so lost sad and frankly scared for mental state I have heard much the last few days as his new victim is in Mexico with him at his moms house. Well I should have known better. Dear friends, I am from united states i had a problem with my husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. If you having similar problem, Contact him now (dr.gokosspiritualcaster @ gmail .com) or whats app him plus 2348056398964 and get your problem solve once and for all. So I maintain the No Contact rule and a Not my circus, not my monkey attitude. Thank you for your post! Severing the lines of communication leaves the narcissist with fewer options for controlling you. No, anything good in him, was for sure a lie, a fake.It would disappear soon after you spent a little time with him.It just made me think, how he must have been putting on a show, after I left himrunning my name down. After almost two months away. She clearly compromised her values to pursue a sexual relationship with someone purely based on there psychical appeal. Reach deep, remember. I was cute, carefree, and single so why not? It sounds like you sent a very clear message. No way I can trust someone who could always produce bad fruit. And selfish he will do anything to get what he wants. Breaking up with a narcissist is one of the hardest, most painful things that you'll likely ever do. Id hide the ongoing relationship and thought if Id change I could make this work. She went on no contact with me and didnt even ask about my son thereafter. Any advice or suggestions? Well. Said I would only meet him once he managed to use normal communication. How cruel are you. Im thinking, the only way to get away & out of this torment for good, is to move out of town. These websites with very little scientifical background are dangerous and can ruin peoples lives. A few months later, Ju told me that her relationship with her partner is over and she will be loyal to me I felt somewhere that it was my fault and was abit sad. Our son dated an N for approximately 8 months, and then ran for the hills. A psychological evaluation was conducted during our last custody case and he was found to have a Personality Disorder with narcissistic, paranoid, and anti-social traits. not an easy road, but its the only TRUE road. Here are some tips to help you recover and move on: 1. Praying for you Tina! Recognize that youre in a relationship with a narcissist. i hope now that i would see some of these traits earlier on in ppl, so I know how to handle myself around them.His violent rages, at home and at anywhere..were to just break me down, embarres me so I would feel even worse about myself and to give himself more authority over me.That is not love, thats abusehe wouldnt leave the marriage..i had to.When he started trying to contact me, to demand my returnhaving a catholic priest call and tell me my place was with my husband!That was his way of getting pity from ppl, his wife had left him..poor thing..hes such a good husband why would she do that? Mom has denied our family any time with him saying we can only see the baby during our sons time. Everything was so perfect and good between us. This has gone on now for this period of time, in the mean time I worked very hard on focusing on my own life. Narcissists want you to feel like theres no escape and the only way to fix things is to get back together with them. She knew everything about me and at first, literally flowered me.. made me feel so special and wanted. Make yourself a better version. When he came back I would be so hurt, I made him stay out for another day or three. Somehow I want him to come back, not the idealizing fake person he was in the beginning but this sinister asshole I have come to know. Not his that he has been ignoring me and throwing me breadcrumbs for years, that he had not intention of marrying me and that my beautiful engagement couldnt be worn in public because I would look like a fool doing so and he was still married. Interesting, my recent X Narcissist would often say I am not from this planet . I became a huge blowout among family members and him because they finally realized that he had been lying to them the whole time and had been telling them all different lies and versions of it. I broke up with my ex narc in march after 16 years and 3 children. Today is my day two of NC with her but this time, I feel like I am guilty of hiding that pic and I feel I betrayed her. good luck to you. You would be nothing without them. I am also hoping to have a real relationship was a loving woman who can understand that I am not perfect nor is she and that we will grow and forgive one another ! Since these dont fit under the criterion of physical abuse, sexual abuse, or neglect, child protection is unable to help me. I had to do exactly what he requested. Its as if there not human and feed off you in any way. Just got off a break with a person who perfectly fits this description. When you're with a narcissist, they're very good at keeping your focus on them. I know it sounds stupid but be glad he is not making a fuss. I started investigating and discovered so many lies and deceit. Being almost 60 I must say my hope fades at times and its hard to stay optimistic . You can do this! makanisurfshop.com how-long-do-narcissistic-relationships-last. How to win a child custody case from a Narcissist? Narcissists have a tendency to revisit their old relationships, but its not a given. Do not give in he, will repeat the same old behavior just to finish what he started. Funny you metioned he breaks up but you are not to tell anyone, I thought this only happened to me. WHen he was caring and loving he was amazing but I felt like there was a deficit of my needs over time. RHOC Vicki Gunvalson Calls John Janssen 'Narcissist', Says He Used Costar Shannon Beador After Breakup. My doctor wanted to send me to the hospital , because my blood pressure went up so high in 1.5 weeks. Is it possible that there is no cure for a narcissistic person is no hope at all? It was my NPD husband of 28 years who suddenly divorced me. Im praying for u. Melanie Your story is my life. He tried so hard to manipulate me. Only a psychologist can do a valid diagnoses. After 2 years of marriage, my husband left me and our kid for his ex wife. I found myself a nice girl as well. After 20 years of marriage to an N, I have been emotionally exhausted. But he always had me hanging on crumbs scraps. While he was with them I would have peace. Im running out of ways to win. He now uses our children as tools to abuse me. He is gone this time But others say he will be back I am seeking a therapist. Think about issues that matter to you. She would fight with me and not talk to me for days. After I left him..more like escaped from him, he only showed extreme rage towards me. 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